...That was mostly dwagon tongue-in-cheek... tho I have to admit, I've never had the same appreciation for comedy that revolves around guys in drag as seems endemic to Brits.
Maybe it has to do with "queer" always being pretty much a "Who fucking cares...?" thing for me as I grew up half the time on a farm and half in the city, so never really got too rooted in either mindset.
In fact, that situation made it much easier for me to look at a lot of the "social norms" in either scenario with a more analytical attitude, and I realized at a young age how ridiculous so many of the "little personal repressions" we take for granted as required social lubricant really are.
mnem
The whole British tradition of dragging up theatrically, especially unconvincingly, has nothing to do with being gay. The most famous acts to do so were almost all straight. So was Kenny Everett as far as the British public knew when he was doing the Cupid Stunt character. The fella didn't come out of the closet until after his ex-wife outed him in her biography in 1988 which was just as his TV career was rather winding down.
The gay drag scene in Britain is a whole different thing and tends to be limited to live venues although there has been a British version of Ru Paul's Drag race on British TV in recent years. Two much missed London venues, Madame JoJo's and the Vauxhall Tavern were the one time heart of the British gay drag scene.
Yeah, I understand that; trust me, you aren't the first of my Brit friends who's tried to explain it to me.
It's definitely a "cultural subconscious" thing that won't make sense unless you grew up with it, like the way Americans are programmed to react to certain scenes from popular action-adventure movies, which themselves were crafted to tap into existing cultural subconscious cues from previous generations. But across the generations, from age 16 to 60, certain images recalling those movies will engender certain emotional responses in near-Pavlovian response.
I know I'm a bit of a misanthrope; most of my life, I've literally had to force myself to consciously look for these nonverbal cues and produce the expected results to set my fellow hominids at ease around me. For lack of a better term, I'm "dense" where these cues are concerned; more so than even the average Homer Simpson citizen. I've come to terms with it; I take reasonable care to emulate "normal" response as best I can, but I do feel "reasonable care" is the only reasonable standard here.
But thanks for taking the time to try and explain it to your poor uncultured 'merkin cousin.
mnem