The fact you don't acknowledge the true purpose of these aircraft isn't THEIR shortcoming; it's yours, old friend.
Their ultimate purpose is "air superiority", their immediate purpose is to destroy or disable other aircraft and to survive combat with other aircraft (and make the military-industrial complex rich as a side effect). Possibly I'm wrong but that's what I thought they were
supposed to be for. Being
prepared to be used, as you keep stressing as if it's something special, is a necessary precondition for
any tool. That that preparation is the cause of most breakages is surely a hint that there's a question to be asked about the suitability of the chosen tool for the task.
If your chosen tool for achieving a stated purpose gets broken more times that it gets used effectively "in anger" (in this case both metaphorically and literally) then perhaps you've chosen the wrong tool and need to go back to the drawing board. That's still the case if the times that tool gets broken are during necessary training with that tool and maintenance of that tool - that's obviously the case of what happens with war planes.
In any everyday field of endeavour you'd think yourself crazy for having a tool that was so expensive, got trashed so often relative to the number of times it gets used and worked - even if it is very effective when it does get put to use. You would ask yourself "Surely there's a better way of doing this?". You'd look for a new way of achieving the same end goal. Not a different model of that particular tool, but a completely different tool. (I've kept the hammer analogy up because "When all you've got is a hammer..." and "If that doesn't work, get a bigger hammer").
I think the problem that you're personally having difficulty grasping this is the basic "choose a appropriate tool that works and keeps working" thing. I can
quite understand why after all that buying 3D printers and then immediately having to fix them.
And remember; unlike a hammer, if the operator drops one of THOSE on the ground it's done for.
You drop
my hammer on the floor and you'd wish you simply had to use an ejector seat and face a board of enquiry.
Really, this has dragged on way too long for a throwaway remark. My point was the
contrast with more normal situations and choices of tool to handle them. That that point keeps being missed either means that I'm a terrible communicator, or that the classic blind-spot of "that's the way we've always done it" is obscuring the view of my point.