SOLVED !!
It is a Temperature Thing !! this unit dont like cold
just a tiny bit under normal room temperature, and it fail to read settings, and also fail to write and modify,
This also explains why the firmware update failed on a cold day, and why it worked on a hot day where I have been using the unit a bit first..
I have been putting both units outside, inside, warmed up, recycled power, various test repeat times,
i even made my own intermistic climate chamber :-) to make it 31C, stable and regulated.
it is clearly a temperature thing..
one chip inside one of my loads, works perfectly, all the time, when a bit over room temp hot,
to find out exactly what ic this is.. i need to open the unit, how ever it is new and still under warranty,
just too bad, i love to perforform the research, but maybe it is better to have the unit replaced?
unless they tell me I can open and perform the research for them ??
attached two thermal pictures from this morning, wow only 19 to 20 C in my lab in the early morning, that is a bit cold..
and the unit under test was keept at 31 to 32 C in a nice isolated way,
with a 3D printer heat plate under it, and a sensor and power regulator