The best way to sort that is to change the wife
I explained to my wife early on something like "look, these are my hobbies. one can't be a healthy individual without a hobby and these are mine. my hobbies come as a package with me. sometimes they'll make me mad, sometimes they'll make me happy, and you're gonna need to ride that train with me. when I show you something I made, and you don't get it, just say it's cool and how impressed you are, and I'll do the same for you."
It's worked out pretty well, but her desire to control every last thing that goes on in the house comes up now and again. I love her dearly, and I've certainly screwed up in major ways many times, but she's still here, more awesome than ever, and she's tolerant of my hobbies.
My point is that changing wives should be a last resort. I know you were joking, but I just wanted to give my $0.02.