Some news on the PSU/isolation thing:
I did try installing the digital isolators. ADUM2400 fits pinout-wise and data-direction-wise too (tested for U14 only at the moment).
However, i got sent the wrong parts (-ARW suffix) from an incompetent seller, which are only rated for 1Mbd and have much too high delay, so it doesnt work. Some signal gets trough, but it doesnt look good.
Now ordering the correct (90Mbd) -CRW again, but this time at a distributor that hopefully knows what they are doing...