Since it's only the settings and date/time that is stored by the supercap, reliability really isn't that much of a concern
Agree, its just I don't like the idea of knowing that the cap is keep growing nasty brown goo, that may leak or burst it's liquid once the container is weakened enough by corrosion caused by that brown stuff.
Possible candidates are CDE Cornell Dubilier type ELDR ultracap (
Datasheet) which highlights the long-life feature than ordinary ultracap.
Same capacitance as original cap at 0.2F 3.6V, and cost $2.79 a pop at Digikey ->
EDLRD224H3R6C, has two terminals styles like above pics, just abit bigger than original cap and not much, and I think its still manageable like by bending it's legs to fit in the solder pads.