hard to recommend something
on VHF/UHF with FM only will be a fruitless occupation; SSB is certainly more interesting but its activities focus on contests mostly while the bands idle otherwise most of the time.
also SSB on VHF/UHF is running in horizontal polarization; you're going to lose 20dB when operating with a common vertical omnidirectional. It's not impossible working like that, but it's far away from being effective.
on the other hand on HF almost always something 'works' and even with limited antennas it's possible to get RF in the air (it's almost impossible to not radiate anything).
certainly in city environment you have to count with a higher level of man made noise, something what can screw you up all efforts. It could make sense to work with a dedicated active rx-only antenna, which can placed out of the domestic noise and run the tx-antenna where ever it's possible to place it
I was thinking vert polarization for the vhfuhf; folded j or whip antenna with radiators since there is nothing to aim a dipole at; if I aim north I lose 3/4 of the area same with e and w. Pointing a dipole straight up doesnt work at all I tried. I was thinking take off the passive radiators and just mount the oval shaped direct fed element and putting it up high for a oval omni-directional, but I really dont like walking on the rusty old ladder several stories off the ground. I was going to do an antenna set up like you see on a police station or utility company where they have vert pol and 360' coverage that way I can cover the city, county, and across the bay. The SSB idea was only for the HF om SW not VHFUHF, I never heard ssb on the single meter bands. Seems like im not in a good area for SW although I could string a 4 story tall wire but that might just pick up a lot of noise.
If I get the vhfuhf route what kind of SWR meter would I need and how many watts is enough? I noticed with HF if you dont have a few hundred watts youre not going to be heard, but on the other hand the 8 or so watts the VHF beofung puts out even in the country really doesnt go that far. The smallest hill and your signal is blocked even on 2 meters. I would like to cover at least 30 miles or have a hand full of repeaters to pick up. So far I would need:
12v Power supply with some descent amps
50' of 50 ohm cable
F connectors
SWR meter
Antenna
Grounding wire (What do you ground to without dirt for a ground rod? Metal pipes off the building fire escape?)
Radio w/ mic
What do you mean by separate rx and tx antenna? Would you need to build a PIN diode switching circuit? Or is this just for the HF option?
The more I read up on this the more Im thinking uhfvhf plus its cheaper too.
Do you live in a city?