Some of you guys must be asshole magnets. Of course if you think you're surrounded by assholes...
Me, I've been a ham since I turned 20, and I'm in my late 60's now. I belong to a ham club and 99% of the members are great people with a wide variety of ham interests. Some, like me, just like designing and building stuff. A few have radio-related businesses selling some pretty sophisticated equipment they have designed. Others like contesting, emergency services, DXing, and ragchewing. None of them look down on the others for not sharing their particular interest. I've been invited a few times to give presentations about my latest enthusiasms, and even though I often get pretty deep into the tech stuff (sampling theory, calculation of spurs and aliases, filter design, SDR programming, etc.) the club members are always engaged and complementary, and ask for more. Other members give presentations about their interests as well. Yes, we're mostly retired men, but there are some women and younger folks as well.
A couple of months ago we had a Zoom chat with ARRL CEO David Minster, and I was impressed.
But I guess you can't please everyone.