The length also seem to have two typical ones - longer barrel (deeper socket) vs shorter.
I have two sets, one a few months after the other. They ended up being different length sets: one has a longer barrel paired with deeper sockets, another has shorter barrel and less deep socket to match.
The longer barrel ones can fit into the short barrel socket just fine but with more back-end sticking out even when fully inserted. The other way (using short barrel with longer barrel deeper sockets) appear to work less well. Just extra work, now I have to manage them as two different parts-set when I make things; instead of just picking out a male or female, I have to make sure I try it out first to ensure matching with the other end already picked/installed.