The socket (male) for the handle is Farnell 1077728, RS components also carries it under 738-9038.
As for the pinout, the cartridge has three connectors, pinout to the hirose connector as follows:
sleeve (front) - 1 hirose - 1 binder
ring (middle) - 5 hirose - 7 binder
tip (pointy end towards handle) - 2 hirose - 6 binder
The heater is between 5 and 2, these are connected to heavy cables inside the station, and each goes via a dual mosfet AC switch to either side of the power winding on the transformer. There is a third heavy cable with a dual mosfet switch connected to pin 3 on the binder, this must be the connection to the second heater on the tweezers.
sleeve (front) is a ground connection. It goes to a thin yellow cable inside the station which is clearly ground for the system (connected to ground on the 7805 and earth). This serves to earth the tip.
I do not know if the thermocouple sense is done via the same two connection as the heater, or uses earth. I see no good reason _not_ to use the earth since it is there. In any case they measure with current off to eliminate the voltage drop caused by the current.
The good news is my station works fine with the handle connected like this. I don't know if I will even spring the money for the stand, since it is so overpriced.
Thanks again for the help!
ST
Do you guys by chance know the ordercode or type for socket for handle? I was thinking about buying the pencil and building the station myself.