hm I thgink the problem here is that I have a very specific situation, possibly needs solving with some built in logic or a standard relay
Can you give us some details? How much reverse voltage do you want to put across the mosfet? What current? What ON resistance do you need?
Rereading your posts, I have no idea whether you are talking about power switching or small signal switching.
If it is power switching, then you need back-to-back mosfets. If it is signal switching, then there are lots of examples of FETs and MOSFETs being used for switching bipolar signals. Junction FETs actually do a pretty good job, mosfets are fine as long as the AC amplitude is below the diode turn-on voltage, and there are 4 wire mosfets like the 3N173, but they seem rare nowadays.
Check out multimeter manuals such as the HP 3455A. I seem to remember they went mad with using mosfets for signal switching. Not only that, they used diodes as a precision switch for the +/- 10V dc reference to the dual-ramp ADC, but probably only HP can manage to do that trick.
When you are talking about the signal switching, a lot comes down to the circuit characteristics each side of the switch. Is one side low impedance (ie not affected by any currents imposed by the switch)? Is one side ground?
Richard