Also, I looked at the appnote an it says for standard high frequency crystals, the recommended capacitor value is 22-33pF , so I am just going with that.
Careful. The appnote is talking about ceramic resonators and crystals as resonators, and about external oscillators like this as oscillators. An oscillator will produce a clock signal if you just apply DC power. A crystal works together with the oscillator inside the AVR to create the clock (see Figure 5-1 (1) in the appnote). For oscillators the suggested capacitor value is 22 pF - 33 pF. For resonators, equation 2 on page 15 is the suggested way. CL is from the crystal datasheet, and CS depends on the board layout. So for a crystal with CL = 18 pF, the capacitors should be something like 30 pF. For a crystal with CL = 33 pF, the capacitors should be about 60 pF.
Please, do re-read the appnote. Your advice is somewhat incorrect.
From the text, second paragraph of section 5.3 (emphasis mine):
"When using the external crystal oscillator, crystals with a nominal frequency range starting from 400kHz
can be used. For
the standard high frequency crystals, the recommended capacitor value range is in the
range of
22pF - 33pF"
By "external crystal oscillator" they obviously referring to the internal oscillator
with an external crystal, not a can oscillator like you have linked to from Digikey - for that one discussion about load capacitors wouldn't make any sense! The app note is not written in the best way, there are several such issues just on that one page.
So the OP had it correct and 22pF is actually a very typical value used for AVRs (and not only for them) when a normal crystal is used. You have to also take into account the parasitic capacitance of the tracks/leads, so with a 22pF cap the actual capacitance seen by the circuit will be higher, probably closer to the 30pF. Fairly safe bet for most cheap crystals where there is no datasheet.
Anyhow, for a one-off hobby circuit this is really not an issue - if the oscillator doesn't start reliably (never had that situation but could happen), it is trivial to swap the capacitors for another value.