A slow pulse would indeed show a too low bandwidth. It still seems to me that the relation between pulse width and bandwidth is somewhat arbitrary, depending on other factors than just bandwidth and pulse rise time. Will have to do some more tests to be sure. Could you post your LTspice circuit so I don't have to build it from scratch?
If I can find the time, I might even try to do it in hardware. I don't have the equipment to generate adjustable <1ns pulses, but I could just slow everything down one or two orders of magnitude and build a low-pass filter for 1 or 10MHz, since it seems pretty obvious to me that actual frequency doesn't matter. The added advantage would be that I wouldn't have to pay attention to transmission line effects. But that seems quite a lot of work, so I'm not sure when I'll be able to do it.
There are indeed advantages to a sharper roll-off.
This Agilent appnote (AN-1420) describes the advantages pretty well. It's not usually needed for scopes that oversample at least 10x, so I would expect any scope that does to have a Gaussian response. Rise time is usually specified as well as bandwidth, so it's easy to determine if it's the magic 0.35 or some other number. A flat response is probably hard to get without DSP, that might be the reason why it used to be Gaussian. Plus you can just add up (RMS) rise times of Gaussian systems, you can't easily calculate the total risetime when at least one system with a flat response is involved. Agilent says to rely on the scope vendors numbers, that's very useful when other parts than scopes and probes are involved.
There are various other places to get fast signals (I've used the memory bus from a PC mainboard in the past), but the trick is to know how fast it is, you need something that samples at 20GS/s or so to determine that
. Of course, as long as it's a lot faster (170ps for a 100-200MHz scope), and the pulse is sufficiently long that even a slow scope will eventually rise to the full amplitude, you don't need to know the exact rise time, the result will basically be the scope rise time. One issue might be that it probably can't drive a 50 ohm load and the output amplitude isn't 50 ohms, so you have to use a probe, which increases the rise time.