Draw the equivalent circuit:
The relay spec means > 10
10 resistance from either relay pole to the relay coil.
The coupler spec means > 10
12 resistance between the output side of the isolator and the input side.
One more resistance: what is the resistance from the isolated power supply to ground, and to any power supply voltage?
Besides ohmic resistance across the transformer, there may be substantial capacitive coupling of the mains voltage.
That will contribute to the resistance from the relay coil to everything else (including the isolator input).
The off current of the bjt should be too small to affect the position of the relay poles.