Great suggestions, thank you all!
I actually have a solenoid valve and footswitch in the drawer which I wanted to add to my homebrew vacuum tool. Ended up rigging up a little support fixture for the pipette instead, which was helpful for the BGA placement (where one has to position XYZ and three rotational axes quite precisely -- beyond my coordination skills, it seems... I love the simplicity of the T junction though, and might try that too.
And I am intrigued by the "automagical" release idea. The zeph.com/zt3web.htm page shows Delrin tips for small parts, I assume those are the ones? They do sell them separately, but at quite a hefty price, $34.50 (plus international shipping & customs for those outside North America). I will look around a bit; found several other US distributors of what looks like the same tips, at similar prices, but none in Europe so far.