Thanks wraper,
I read a lot about possible causes to this problem, can say for sure that although it looks the same there is a difference between tombstoning and what I am describing.
In most places it is associated to poor wetting, while tombstone is commonly associated with uneven pads or one pad connected to a large surface without thermal relief.
But you mentioned very logical causes and there is some thinking to do, in addition to the possible bad ENIG plating.
The machine placements are very precise and each board is inspected before reflow.
The thermal mass of the pads, at least where this phenomena happens is equal. Funny, while this is happening with 0805 resistors, I have on the same board 2 tantalum caps size D placed quite close to each other in parallel and one of the pads is connected to a large shield surface without thermal relief, never had any problem with them.
I suspected the placement pressure, but I don't want to push too much as resistors break. Also, I have the same resistor in several locations on the board, if it was a placement pressure problem I would see the same on all.
I will check all of this again, very annoying situation.