I have the same affliction as Dave: I keep looking for solutions and alternatives, when someone is in a bind (but is not necessarily asking for any).
What I can offer, is this:
Life is change.Even when "I just want things to stay as they are", it is important to have options, because change always happens, sooner or later. Nothing alive stays unchanged for long; that's what being alive is.
It is even more important to
consider options rationally, because what might feel awful and horrible and impossible now, might be the best thing ever the day after tomorrow.
Just because I
believe this is the best place for me to be now and in the future, it may not be true at all. Opinions are opinions, and beliefs are beliefs, nothing more. They need to be carefully, critically, rationally examined, to find out the truth in them. I have definitely been mislead by my own opinions and beliefs before, and have suffered a lot because of not being prepared to change things. I'd hate to see others repeat my mistakes.
Seeing someone reject
all alternatives because "I just want to things to stay as they are right now" reminds me of how I dug a hole for myself doing exactly that, and makes me thoroughly sad. I know, from experience, that that road only leads to unnecessary suffering. Better change things before the change is forced on you by reality, I say, while you have options and alternatives to choose from.