There are two things going on here. The technical problem and the social problem.
The essence of the social problem is the OPs demand for a switch to an environment that meets his needs and that he is familiar with. His counterpart is easy to find in the Windows world. I try not to be that person, but I'm not far from it. I am not a software professional or a fanatic software hobby person. I really don't care about kernels, or drivers, or such. I care about simulations and models and photo editing and text editing and all of the end services provided by the machine and the software system.
For the most part the Windows system could handle all of my needs clear back at Windows 95, while at that time Linux wasn't up to many of those tasks. Now Linux has largely caught up, but there are issues. All large and powerful software packages have a steep learning curve, and while GIMP can do everything I need, I haven't gotten nearly as far up its learning curve as I have with the Windows counterparts. MS commercial practices have driven me from MS Office to Libre Office, but I still can't use it as well as the old system. And my investment in document automation is totally lost, and as nearly as I can tell in some ways not possible to recreate. This list goes on and on.
Both environments share a common problem, although the driver is different in the two environments. Both want continual "improvements", most of which don't have much benefit to me as a standalone user. MS needs to drive new sales, my purchase of an Office Suite 20 years ago is of no business benefit. The Linux world spends an inordinate amount of time on new and shiny. Everyone has their own almost compatible distro, with much emphasis on whether there are rounded corners on windows and other similar cruft. I don't discount the technical improvements in both systems (larger memory models, automatic HW configuration, etc.) but to be honest these are luxuries, not core requirements for my use case. I can also see the need for better security features, but I also can solve that problem pretty easily by isolating my system.
A long winded diatribe, but both environments would benefit from a step back and figuring out why anyone wants their product at all. Apple and various hardware vendors have decided that the large market is web shopping and social media. I don't think they are wrong, but neither of those really requires much of an OS.