I can get "not watching the day-to-day"... but when a user is engaged in a direct, face-to-face discussion with you, I think it's reasonable to expect you to have read what they've said. As owner, especially where moderation of a thread has become "an issue", I think "not being aware" of the post above which quotes you is... well... just plain a weak excuse too.
I can understand how this looks to you, but please understand how this works from my viewpoint:
TEA is not a thread I frequent, and there are so many posts per day in there that if you come back even hours later it's onto another page of posts entirely.
This is how it usually goes down:
I got a moderator report, I went in to take a look, maybe spend a small bit of time looking at some older posts for context, and then responded. Then I left to do other non-forum stuff.
Unless I remember to go back to that particular thread hours or days later, I'm not going to see the response. I often remember to do this out of interest, but in the case of TEA I know that there are so many posts it would take me some time to find it again. So my brain probably filed this under "oh, there is a little kerfuffle in the TEA thread where really passionate people hand out, meh, they'll sort it out."
In the case of your quoted posts of me above, I don't actually remember writing them, probably because I didn't have a deep vested interested in this TEA discussion. I got a report, and I did a fly by post, that happens a lot.
In this case it just happend to be very important to you and some others and I missed the gist of it, sorry, my fault for not realising at the time that this was serious.
I don't know what more to say.