People used copper tips for decades before the plated ones appeared.
Yes, they do eventually deteriorate, but they can be "redressed" with a fine file.
Unless they are abused, or are very poor quality to begin with, they won't normally have "a large hole in the tip after a few days use", but they definitely do have significantly shorter lifetimes than plated tips.
I had a very small soldering iron made by "Fairey" (not sure if it was the same company that made aircraft), when I was a teenager.
It was quite usable off a 6.3 volt "filament" transformer, but definitely lacked "grunt" when it came to large joints.
I never took the time to measure its element resistance, but my guess is, it would have been quite a bit higher than the OP's one.
The tip sat around the shaft of the iron, so it had a bit of mass to heat up, but also it didn't just lose heat when applied to the solder joint.
Nevertheless, it was a bit limited, so my next one was a thing called a "Scope" iron, which supplied a lot of current to a carbon rod which contacted the back of the tip when a control ring around the iron handle was pushed.
These were used for just about any conceivable job, with larger or smaller tips & manually controlled "on" time, depending on the job.
There are still some godawful things masquerading as soldering irons.
Foremost among these are the allegedly adjustable ones which just have a mains operated iron fed through what is basically a "light dimmer", using an SCR or TRIAC.
You wind the pot up, & they become too hot. Wind it down, & they become too cold.
The tips have a very short life.
After my Weller WTCP croaked, I picked one of these things up from Jaycar to "get me out of trouble" till I fixed it.
Well, it was a nightmare to use, but I did do a few joints OK, after I developed the right technique.
Wondering why it was so lousy, as the base seemed quite heavy, as if it had a reasonable transformer, I opened it up, & was confronted by the previously mentioned "light dimmer".
The reason it was heavy was a weight glued to the inside bottom of the case.
To the OP, I would suggest picking up a secondhand WTCP, as it will do most of the work you need to do.
You are then free to experiment with homemade irons without needing them to be useable in the short term.
By the way, you mentioned using a small iron with a spirit lamp.
Have you thought of trying a gas soldering iron?
They will work outdoors, & are reasonably economical, probably better than your spirit lamp setup.
They would certainly be more convenient.