I just updated to 24.4.1 and now the 'obey rules' is visible.
Unfortunately it has no effect.
When I switch the design rules to 'general connect' for all polygons, there are some pads with and some without reliefs.
When I *disable* the relief on a pad that has one, the relief is removed.
When I *enable* it again, nothing happens.
I could not manage to get a relief back once it is disabled.